Excitement Can Be Difficult

Sometime Excitement Can Be Mistaken

We all have things that excite us in life.
Somethings are upsetting so they excite us in a different way than our positive motivators do.  

We don't all show excitement in the same way either.

This is where our excitement can sometimes be mistaken as having some other meaning or intention than what we are actually feeling or trying to convey.

Traits of excitement that can be misread:

1.       Talking loudly and briskly – sometimes we not only have a change in the volume of our natural voice level, but also a change in the timbre, inflection, and rhythm of our speech  as well. 

o   Negative Excitement:

·   Sometimes changes in our voice can imply an elevate state of agitation or hostility, potentially causing a breakdown in communication or cooperation.

o   Positive Excitement:

·   Sometimes our vocal adjustments can be misconstrued as a negative response instead of one born from joy or something amicable; imply aggression instead of enthusiasm.

2.       Lack of patience – sometimes we are so excited that we forget that things can take time or the way we perceive time is altered.

o   Negative Excitement:

·   Reacting to something impatiently can actually make a situation harder, causing ill feelings with the people involved or disruptions in productivity.  Allowing your emotions to dictate your notable patience level can give you the opposite effects than the ones you are trying to achieve.

o   Positive Excitement:

·   Being over-zealous about something that excites us can sometimes make someone else feel harried.  It may incite negative pressure you didn’t intend or feel.

3.       Surplus of energy – sometimes we are so excited that our energy levels rise and we start to expel this extra energy through various physical activities.

o   Negative Excitement:

·   Again, this visual manifestation of your excitement can mistakenly represent a different emotion than you really mean to display, such as aggression, impatience, or feeling threatened.

o   Positive Excitement:

·   This can make someone else feel energized beyond their comfort level.  You may become “too much” for them, overwhelming them with your own surplus of energy and the agitated motion it can create, like pacing.

4.       Physiological changes – sometimes you have visible changes in your outward appearance.

o   Negative Excitement:

·   Negative excitement may cause you to have chest pains or even cry.  In cases like this, others may not think you are excited, but they may interpret your uncontrolled physical responses as fear or injury.

o   Positive Excitement:

·   Increased heart rate and breathing can occur as a physiological result to positive influences that excite us.  This can sometimes cause others to interpret our reaction as aggressive, fearful, or dangerous.

This is something to consider if you are noticing a response to your behavior that is puzzling or not what you expected.  Try to pay attention to your non-verbal clues that help others interpret your meanings and intentions, especially when corresponding via writing.
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